So often we find ourselves in the depth of loneliness where we feel empty and afraid that there is no one in our life that is emotionally and physically there for us. We are so frightened that we will never find happiness and loneliness is going to be there forever. We can become so irrational and build ugly fantasies of what our life will look like which takes us to the edge of despair. We have no willpower to fight off these ugly feelings and at times we may even contemplate suicide because we have no hope that we can make our life work, there is so much that we need.
We think that someone else coming into our life will solve the problem and that person will save us from our loneliness. This is false thinking on our part for our fantasy of this other person is all about us rather than having a real partner in life. We want this other person to take away our loneliness and our demands on them become so unrealistic.
Our loneliness is based upon who we are and what we have done to our life. We will not let ourselves see that we created so much loneliness with the negative energy about everything that happened to us. We see ourselves only as victims of life and it is as if we cannot allow ourselves to look inside and see our own truly negative behaviors. We have done so much damage with our manipulations and lies and the way we use people at times. No, we cannot see these behaviors because we are so locked into avoidance.
We must wake ourselves up from these nightmares we have created and see the truth about who we have been. This takes enormous strength to look at oneself and take responsibility for our negative behaviors. We must learn to forgive the past the best we can and let go of the past situations that we can dwell on and feed the victimization of our life. There are some things that we might not be able to forgive but we must work on just letting them go when they enter our heads. We need to learn that we can be strong and with that strength, we can bring positive energy into our life. With positive energy, we change the course of our life and get to feel peace of mind once and for all!