Half-empty? Half-full? How do we really see life? Are we people who put on a good face to the world, while inside we feel horrible and hopeless? How many “secrets” do we keep so that people will think that we have it together, but we actually know what we really feel?
We do not learn this behavior as adults, we learn it way back in our childhood when we have no defenses to fight others’ negativity. We learn, through our parents’ low self-esteem, that they cannot see us as better. Believe it that some parents don’t even want us to do better than they have, for that just points out their failures. Have we ever heard the saying, “I want you to do better than I did in life?” That isn’t always the truth. What they’re saying is they want us to do “well in life” and succeed, but not better!
Be different from them and watch for the parts of us that are most like their worst personality trait. Women have their mothers as role models, and men have their fathers. We cannot have a parent of the opposite sex as our role model no matter how close we are to them. Genetics interferes. We must therefor always look at ourselves and how we are behaving, always trying to change those behaviors that we imitated from our parents.
Half-full! So often we do not look at what we have accomplished, but rather at what we have not done. How do we expect to see life in a positive way if we are stuck in the negativity of what hasn’t happened? There is not one of us who is a complete failure. We have to take the time to look closely at what we have been capable of accomplishing, and then build on it! It does not matter how small it is, it still counts!